Finding Your Best Friend

We are a mating species. We strut, preen, and fluff our feathers, displaying our finest qualities in hopes of attracting the attention of, and seeking the reciprocal approval of, potential nesting partners. The particular currencies deployed by the parties to this microeconomic exchange differ widely across cultures and generations, but the striving is universal.

Friendship, beyond sex, plays a crucial role in the mating process among humans (some other species also appear to have "special" friends and even monogamous mates). Few of us are content solely with one-night, or one-minute, stands. We want emotional depth and stability, ego support to weather life's ups and downs, trustworthy familiarity, convenient cohabitation, and other ingredients comprising the stew of happy partnership. We want to be liked, loved, and securely cared for, and to reciprocate those bonding delights.

Even most successful singles who relish their unobstructed freedom generally yearn, even if ambivalently, for the intimate companionship of a best friend, most conveniently a domestic partner. Exceptions and variants occur, which prove the rule.

This book offers a strategic approach to finding one's best friend that has proved successful in this male, pro-feminist author's long life.

This is my story.

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