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When we are right, let’s try to win people gently and tactfully to our way of thinking, and when we are wrong—and that will be surprisingly often, if we are honest with ourselves—let’s admit our mistakes quickly and with enthusiasm. Not only will that technique produce astonishing results; but, believe it or not, it is a lot more fun, under the circumstances, than trying to defend oneself. Remember the old proverb: “By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected.”
PRINCIPLE 3
If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
How to Win Friends and Influence People
Dale Carnegie
It occurred to me that there were two sets of virtues, the résumé virtues and the eulogy virtues. The résumé virtues are the skills you bring to the marketplace. The eulogy virtues are the ones that are talked about at your funeral — whether you were kind, brave, honest or faithful.
The Moral Bucket List
DAVID BROOKS
privilege tends to be experientially unfamiliar with genuine disempowerment.
When people who subscribe to historically successful ideologies, ones that have been socially dominant, go on to experience a decrease in influence, it can qualitatively feel like an existential threat. And the regime presiding over the shrinking of their influence can get construed by them as a tyrannical force, as the instrument of their persecution.
So they end up catastrophizing their situation because even a temporary “unprivileging” of their perspective feels to them, from the inside, not as an acceptable loss but as an intolerable form of subjugation.
They adopt a framework of suppression when all that’s really happening is society is adjusting to more and different voices acquiring a share of political power.
We Were Zero Years in Power
Berny Belvedere
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