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Audiences open their hearts, as well as their minds, to speakers who deliberately deflate themselves by calling attention to some deficiency or failing on their part, in a humorous sense, of course.
The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking
Dale Carnegie
He describes eloquently a high-reactive child’s ideal parent: someone who “can read your cues and respect your individuality; is warm and firm in placing demands on you without being harsh or hostile; promotes curiosity, academic achievement, delayed gratification, and self-control; and is not harsh, neglectful, or inconsistent.” This advice is terrific for all parents, of course, but it’s crucial for raising a high-reactive child.
If you want to determine whether you are reward-oriented, threat-oriented, or both, try asking yourself whether the following groups of statements are true of you. If you are reward-oriented: When I get something I want, I feel excited and energized. When I want something, I usually go all out to get it. When I see an opportunity for something I like, I get excited right away. When good things happen to me, it affects me strongly. I have very few fears compared to my friends. If you are threat-oriented: Criticism or scolding hurts me quite a bit. I feel pretty worried or upset when I think or know somebody is angry at me. If I think something unpleasant is going to happen, I usually get pretty “worked up.” I feel worried when I think I have done poorly at something important. I worry about making mistakes.
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