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Improvement requires a delicate balance. You need to regularly search for challenges that push you to your edge while continuing to make enough progress to stay motivated. Behaviors need to remain novel in order for them to stay attractive and satisfying. Without variety, we get bored. And boredom is perhaps the greatest villain on the quest for self-improvement.
Atomic Habits
James Clear
If you want to determine whether you are reward-oriented, threat-oriented, or both, try asking yourself whether the following groups of statements are true of you. If you are reward-oriented: When I get something I want, I feel excited and energized. When I want something, I usually go all out to get it. When I see an opportunity for something I like, I get excited right away. When good things happen to me, it affects me strongly. I have very few fears compared to my friends. If you are threat-oriented: Criticism or scolding hurts me quite a bit. I feel pretty worried or upset when I think or know somebody is angry at me. If I think something unpleasant is going to happen, I usually get pretty “worked up.” I feel worried when I think I have done poorly at something important. I worry about making mistakes.
David was insistent that rather than handing the baby to me when she was crying, we allow him to comfort her even if it took longer. It was harder in the short run, but it absolutely paid off when our daughter learned that Daddy could take care of her as well as Mommy.”
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