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The lady in Chicago survived, she told me, through stories. Which is at the core of traditional therapy: retelling the family saga. Talk about it, the old wisdom says, and you get better. From narratives about childhood, this woman manufactured a self, neither cut off from her past nor mired in it. In our solitary longing for some reassurance that we’re behaving okay inside fairly isolated families, personal experience has the possibility to transform both the tellers of it and the listeners to it.
The Liars' Club
Mary Karr
talk about the interviewing process and work on my strategy. As we sat there for over four hours, he taught me a number of interviewing tactics that I will never forget. Coach Valvano told me that my goal should be to walk out of the interview with “no negatives.” Every comment, phrase, or story must be positive, and I had to be prepared to talk only about things that put me in the best light. No matter what the topic, it was my job to turn every answer into a response that highlighted my strong points. Like his point guard, who controlled the court, or my middle linebacker, who controlled our defense, I had to control the interview. He taught me that if they asked a question that I couldn’t answer, then I shouldn’t answer it but instead find a way to turn the question to something I could talk about comfortably, positively, and honestly.
Win Forever
Pete Carroll, Yogi Roth, Kristoffer A. Garin
Experiencing is our fundamental activity, and so the quality of our lives depends on the quality of our experience. And the quality of experience depends on state of mind and on depth of concentration. If my life isn’t as satisfying as it could be, is this the fault of my circumstances or of my ability to appreciate them? Is the cause of my discontent internal or external? Are not most of our external conflicts a result of our internal unrest? Much of the time we are so caught up in the content of our lives, the “goodness” or “badness” of what happens to us, that we forget to take any joy in the very fact that we are alive and are able to experience life at all. Regardless of the texture of our lives, we are privileged to be participating in the process called living. Whenever I can see my life from this point of view, I begin to free myself of the pettiness of Self 1 concerns, and to appreciate the best my life has to offer. And with what do I appreciate it? With the gift of awareness, with the quality of my attention, and with the power of my concentration.
Inner Skiing
W. Timothy Gallwey
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