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The lady in Chicago survived, she told me, through stories. Which is at the core of traditional therapy: retelling the family saga. Talk about it, the old wisdom says, and you get better. From narratives about childhood, this woman manufactured a self, neither cut off from her past nor mired in it. In our solitary longing for some reassurance that we’re behaving okay inside fairly isolated families, personal experience has the possibility to transform both the tellers of it and the listeners to it.
The Liars' Club
Mary Karr
Averaging across these various studies, it seems that we spend around 20 per cent of our eighteen-hour waking day engaged in social interaction. That’s about three and a half hours a day, averaged across the week. That is not party time, by the way! It is time spent eating with people, sitting with people in a social context, talking to people. That may seem like a lot, but distributed among your 150 friends and family, it works out at just one minute and forty-five seconds each per day – barely time to say ‘Hello and how are you?’, never mind waiting for the reply. In fact, as we saw in chapter 4, that is not what we do. Something like 40 per cent of this social time is devoted to the five people in our innermost social circle, the support clique, with another 20 per cent devoted to the ten additional people that make up the fifteen members of the next layer, the sympathy group. On average, we devote seventeen and a half minutes each day to each of the five people in the support clique, and about four and a half minutes a day to each of the ten people that make up the rest of the sympathy-group layer. Of course, we don’t see all of these people every day. Remember that the definition of the support clique is the people you see at least once a week, while the sympathy group consists of the people you see at least once a month. Over the course of a month, you would devote around 520 minutes (about eight and a half hours, in effect an entire working day) to each support-clique member (more for some and less for others, no doubt), probably in half a dozen or more sessions. And you would devote 130 minutes (a bit more than two hours, or a whole evening every other month) to each of the ten additional sympathy-group members. The remaining 135 people in the two outer circles get an average of just thirty-seven seconds a day each – less than twenty minutes a month. There
In 2013 in Russia, customs officials noticed that a series of consumer goods manufactured in China, including electronic teakettles and clothing irons, arrived with modifications that Russian authorities were none too pleased about. The devices contained hidden miniature Wi-Fi cards capable of spreading malware to any open Internet network within two hundred meters and were able to “phone home,” relaying secret messages back to China.
Future Crimes
Marc Goodman
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